My successes of 2014

This is November. the last next to last  of 2014. I look back on this year and realize there are so many amazing accompaniments. I have been published in two more books: http://www.amazon.com/An-Eclectic-Collage-Volume-Animals/dp/1502305712, and http://www.amazon.com/An-Eclectic-Collage-Volume-Demystifying/dp/1502305623 this amazing acomplishment was made possible by a lady I am honored to call my friend Jane Fruend. http://blog.janefreund.com/. Here is her web page for anyone wishing to publish: http://www.janefreund.com/.

    I also was laid off from my job as a Community Based Rehabilitation worker that forced me to realize my true potential and career dream. I am going to finally pursue a career in Real estate. I am so very excited and happy to begin my new life.
           I intend to spend every waking moment either writing or selling Real Estate. I am 38 years old this year and I was often told you reinvent yourself at age 40.
  I am doing exactly this!  I thank Jane Fruend, for helping me realize my dream and I also thank all the authors and editors of the Pixie Chicks Eclectic Collage books. I am honored to be a part of this group!
   

The final four years

I remember reading a book by Laura singles Wilder called the First Four Years.  The book was about the Lauthor's first four years of marriage to  Almanzo Wilder. The series itself was a passionate favorite of mine and planted a viable seed that would grow onto a passion for writing.  The title stayed with me and it was not until I had my own son, who looks strikingly like Almonzo Wilder, did I grasp the true meaning of a first four or even a final four years. My son will graduate from high school in 4 years and these are my final four as his legally bound guardian and support system. the next few blogs will be my recounting stories of my life as a mother and the trials I face today knowing I have such little time left with Edward the child. He's a teenager and far from a child other then chronological age but he's my child until the legal age of 18, that said. There is much to accomplish in these last 4 years.  He started football practice today at the high school. The conradary was profound.  He was engulfed in a tidle wave of male adolocent glory. As  I watched him proudly; with honor and confidence, stride into the red and white tidle wave of fellow football players and their proudly donned uniforms, I was reminded of a film I loved as a child. It was titled the Last Unicorn. http://viooz.co/movies/8585-the-last-unicorn-1982.html


In this film a lone unicorn searched for her kind and felt very much alone until she was united with her own kind.  My son has always had friends nad has always been a very loyal friend. However the last few years since he began playing football, he appears to have found his clan.  His loyalities remind me of a soldiers in battle.  When he walked into his cohert of warrior- students, it was as if he was engulfed in a sea of glory never to return to his old life of childish awe and innocence.  He will, hence forth travel down that ritchous path paved way by so many before him, to walk proid and tall toward manhood.  Go Boise Braves!

The beginning of the end.

It's finally here, after 14 years of rearing and going through each phase with my son; his rug rats phase--- cute, vie vacuous toddler, his Lio/ Calvin and Hobbs phase- intelligent, witty and a bit of a brat elementary school phase, many of you readers will remember my past post of THOSE turbulent , exciting, happy, frustrating and promising years--- too many words to describe the first 14 years of Eddy's life. He will be entering High School next fall and like the comic, Zits, I plan on chronicling my only child's rite of passage into this great unknown for him. The next four years are all I have left with him as my adolocent. Wish me luck I'm helping him navigate this era of his life for he will depend on me less and less and his friends more and more.

Sherry Briscoe, Author: It's Your Life, After All

Sherry Briscoe, Author: It's Your Life, After All: I had an interesting message from a friend today, who described her life as not her own. You see she has spent her life, college, career, ev...

I embody this post as I am one of those who has done for everyone else and never really done for myself.

 When I was younger, pre- marriage and motherhood, I wanted to be a lawyer. I met my now husband while I was in college studying a career my mother told me i was going to be great at.  I hated Psychology but it was an easy degree to attain so I stayed the course. I got pregnant with my son, who is now 14 when I was a sophomore in college and my life changed; everything i did then and have done since has been for the benefit of my child. Until about three years ago, I put every one of my dreams and goals on hold. I decided to write a screen play and joined a group that supported my new found hobby. that group led to many other fun goals I accomplished.  I  want very much to author a memoir or a book series and I used to use the fact I never had time as an excuse, but that is my mom's excuse, not mine, I do not feel right stealing her long used,and very treasured excuse not to succeed. I love my mother but I do not like the fact she always uses the" I cant afford to write,--- or I never have time-- or I need to focus on the job not the dream to pay bills" excuses.  I  have wonderful  idea and a few have actually made it from mind to paper to publisher. I am proud of the little I have accomplished and I will find a way to accomplish more... My son cannot be an excuse to not do.. the fact I need to pay off loans and other bills cannot be an excuse to NOT do.... maybe  I need to reexamine my excuses and see if I can fit  the needs I have into the reason I need  "TO do" pile.

Sherry Briscoe, Author: It's Your Life, After All

Sherry Briscoe, Author: It's Your Life, After All: I had an interesting message from a friend today, who described her life as not her own. You see she has spent her life, college, career, ev...

I embody this post as I am one of those who has done for everyone else and never really done for myself.

 When I was younger, pre- marriage and motherhood, I wanted to be a lawyer. I met my now husband while I was in college studying a career my mother told me i was going to be great at.  I hated Psychology but it was an easy degree to attain so I stayed the course. I got pregnant with my son, who is now 14 when I was a sophomore in college and my life changed; everything i did then and have done since has been for the benefit of my child. Until about three years ago, I put every one of my dreams and goals on hold. I decided to write a screen play and joined a group that supported my new found hobby. that group led to many other fun goals I accomplished.  I  want very much to author a memoir or a book series and I used to use the fact I never had time as an excuse, but that is my mom's excuse, not mine, I do not feel right stealing her long used,and very treasured excuse not to succeed. I love my mother but I do not like the fact she always uses the" I cant afford to write,--- or I never have time-- or I need to focus on the job not the dream to pay bills" excuses.  I  have wonderful  idea and a few have actually made it from mind to paper to publisher. I am proud of the little I have accomplished and I will find a way to accomplish more... My son cannot be an excuse to not do.. the fact I need to pay off loans and other bills cannot be an excuse to NOT do.... maybe  I need to reexamine my excuses and see if I can fit  the needs I have into the reason I need  "TO do" pile.

Border collie puppy eating a book

This is a funny way to show the author of this book that the first rule of  "Dog Rules" is there are no rues.

Enabling teens is detrimental to their develoment

 I took a job recently where I was under the impression I was going to be tutoring and working with a  young lady who was home schooled for various reasons. She has been an amazing wake up call for me in regards to complete learned helplessness. She is 15 years old with no real life skills. her mother and father have waited on her hand and foot.  She has been kicked out of private schools, placed in Emotionally Disturbed class rooms and placed in a padded room due to her temper and anger outbursts. She was in an online charter school and had an aid, she broke the aid's nose because the lady tried to force her to do math work when she was laying on the computer.  They have used the "she is non neuro typical" excuse so long it has been ingrained in the whole family's mind that she is forever helpless.  She is in every sense of the word a 'spoiled rotten brat" She can easily cook a bowl of soup or make a toasted bagel but she demands I do it for her.  She is far from helpless but she has been allowed to believe that everything must be done for her and this, I simply will not enable. If I lose the job, oh well. I  have  principals and I will not just heat up a bowl of  mashed potatoes if  her only reason is, "I don't have to" You are my baby sitter, you are supposed to. Really? This is coming from a 15 year old young adult female. I asked her if she was a baby. she said no, So I asked her why, then did she needed a baby sitter. I  told her I felt she needed a tutor. Some one to teach her. She told me she knew how to do it she just did not want to she wanted me to because  I was here.  She then called me a bitch and to F (fill in the four letter blank here) off. I guess that means I had a break through with her, my mother always said if your child is angry with you've done something right. I put my foot down and gave her a boundary and she was shocked and did not know how to accept that someone would not just do it for her. But I can not understand how a 15 year old young adult female get to this point of pure crippled learned-helplessness and being enabled! How can she go her life demanding someone heat up mashed potatoes in a microwave for her and expect a person to not tell her to do such a simple task her self?! What am I teaching her by not having her do that and doing it for her I am teaching her to never be self sufficient. That is a dangerous road to go down.  If  I was aid  $50.00 an hour, then maybe I would oblige. but i would hope that if a parent were to pay me THAT much the parent would want me to  actually help her child not continue enabling her. I  have been job hoping for the last year, feeling unstable and frustrated with my life. I took this job over a full time job in the school district because this job offered a more promising outlook at first, the saying, 'the grass is always greener on the other side certainly has clout here. I will find stability. I will find a job before June that offers me a fulfillment that I have not had in years. It us out there. I know it is.